Many years ago I attended a webinar with Steve and Barbara Rother of Lightworker. During the webinar Barbara shared a personal story that I occasionally reflect upon, and often share with clients who find themselves experiencing overwhelm.

I’d like to share it with you today because one theme I am consistently aware of these days is that folks feel overwhelmed and stressed out.

The story: Barbara shared that she used to take care of everyone else’s needs first. At the end of the day she was depleted, empty, at zero on the gas tank, with nothing left for herself. Over time she began feeling resentful, but powerless to change because her habit of taking care of everyone else was so deeply ingrained in her that she didn’t even know it was there (sneaky things, those subconscious blocks and beliefs).

A friend of hers recommended she begin putting herself first. Aghast, she resisted. “What? I can’t do that. I’ll let everyone down. Nobody will approve.” She balked. The roof would cave in. The house would be a mess! Everyone would run amok. Nothing would get done. Life, as she knew it, would get very messy.

So she carried on. Business as usual. Finally, she was so empty and depleted that she had nothing left to give. Not to anyone.

Desperate, she tried her friend’s suggestion, giving ample forewarning to those around her. From here on out, her needs and desires came first. Everyone and everything else came second.

At first, her husband and sons challenged her. The committees railed. Her friends waa-hhhed and wailed. Although she felt guilty, she stood her ground.

What she discovered astounded her: When she gave to others first she was depleted. When she put herself first her energy was full and overflowing, and had plenty left over to give to others.

It didn’t take long for her husband and two sons to notice that when she put others first she was cranky. Begrudging. Exhausted. But, when she put herself first she was different – happy, fun to be around, vibrant – and soon they began encouraging her to put her Self first.

Moral of the story: When a cup is empty there is nothing for anyone to drink. When a cup is overflowing there is plenty for everyone to drink.

If you find yourself putting everyone and everything before your own needs and desires, are experiencing overwhelm, fatigue, frustration, resentment and STRESS I would be honored to help you identify and dismantle the conscious and subconscious blocks, behaviors and beliefs that keep you in the energy of obligation and resentment. Together, we can shift your experience from overwhelm and exhaustion to vibrant dynamic energy, and genuine contribution of your unique gifts and talents in the world.

To your freedom,

“Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion. – Margo Anand

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.” – Buddha

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I have over 20+ years of specialized training in multiple healing methods and modalities, earned numerous certificates, and invested more than 25 years of my time, energy and resources into mastering my own personal, professional and spiritual development. As a result, I have cultivated a completely customized synergistic synthesis of spiritual life coaching, intuitive energy healing, spiritual counseling, resilience psychology, neuroscience, intuitively guided somatic bodywork and a plethora of quantum & spiritual growth-accelerating practices that I use to help my clients heal from trauma, resolve long-standing issues that are blocking their happiness and fulfillment, come into greater alignment with their soul’s purpose, and craft a life that makes their heart and soul sing. I don’t really fit into any one category of coach, therapist, healer, minister, psychic or intuitive counselor because I bring all of my skills to the table when working with clients. I select and use the appropriate ‘tools of transformation,’ with a high degree of specificity and accuracy, depending on where each client is in his or her journey. My background and professional experience include: - Master Spiritual Teacher - Medical Intuitive, Intuitive Counselor & Energetic Intuitive Healing Practitioner – certified in numerous energetic / intuitive healing modalities and spiritual communication - Clairvoyant Channel / Medium / Spiritualist – In addition to being clairvoyant (able to “read energy”) I have also fully developed my entire intuitive and spiritual faculties. I see, sense, smell, hear, feel, and intuitively “know” what is normally beyond the normal five human senses. I am also able to channel energy both in spoken messages and vibrational frequency through my body to whomever I am working with (even at a distance) so that you benefit from the vibrational frequencies in a body-felt way. - Soul Seer – I see who you are as a soul, your lessons and agreements, who you are and what you are here to contribute (what you might call your purpose) - Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner – Global Sciences Foundation - Certified Professional Coach – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching - Interfaith Minister – School of Peace Ordained by the Colorado Interfaith Seminary, I specialize in teaching transformational spiritual principles, spiritual healing and counseling, officiating ceremonies & holding sacred space for your deep personal and spiritual transformation - Somatic Bodywork Practitioner - Licensed Massage Therapist – trained in a number of modalities I specialize in offering an intuitive integrative approach, guided by your body’s inner wisdom - #1 Best-Selling Co-Author of Women Living Consciously Book II - Workshop / Retreat Facilitator - B.A. Communication, Regis University - Currently pursuing an MA in Counseling at Southwestern College, specializing in Grief, Trauma, Resilience My intention is to provide you with expertise, tools, guidance and support to align your unique talents, skills and abilities with your Soul Purpose and craft a life that makes your heart and soul sing!

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